so our job is to take care of the babies/kids…but my heart sometimes aches for the parents of our fosters.
It is quite common that they themselves were in foster care, or at least have a rough history. If they had any good support around them, then their child would not be in foster care; they’d either have been guided by their family/friends, or their family/friends would have custody of their child(ren). If they end up in the system it’s because there is no possible person suitable to take their children. Can you imagine having no one around you suitable to help out with your kids? No one out of your friends or family who can pass a homestudy? I think some of these parents don’t even know that a world like ours exists.
The other day I was in a room with another mom & when fostering came up she just casually said that she grew up in the system & that she wishes there really was something in place to help the parents more, bc it really is best for kids to be with their biological parents (when everyone is doing well, right, & the situation is right….no worries, I’m still a huge advocate of adoption). I don’t know what kind of support there is out there for parents. I know there are classes they have to take, but I’m not even sure what they’re like. I’d kind of like to take one of their parenting classes! do they teach them that kids really can drink water & white milk? & that they can eat fruits & vegetables? & that they can get on a good sleeping schedules? So my mind has just been racing.
Let me jump to another subject that really does tie in…really, just bear with me for a bit….so in the last presidential election Robbie really got into supporting Ron Paul. Ron Paul is very much into small government. The hope/plan/expectation with small government is that if the government stays out, & takes less taxes, then we, the people, will have more $ to put into church organizations that do what all the government programs do. Part of that is hoping that the church will step up & help!! really help! roll up our sleeves & get dirty with that other world that’s right next door.
SO…..if we put those 2 things together….what if the church stepped up & helped these parents from world hurt & addiction, see that there is another world…..world hope!! We could do simple things, like a basic parenting class. some simple recipes, scheduling tips, discipline tips, those things that come so natural to us & are so foreign to them. One of our foster’s parents asked me one time “how do you get _____ to not drink chocolate milk all the time”? My mouth almost dropped open. “Umm….you just say no!!!” You keep a cup of water available all the time & believe it or not, they’re usually ok with that. It kind of gets me excited to think about this…about getting some moms (& dads) from our church to do some classes & mentoring…& my mind wanders off to if it goes well getting more & more churches involved!! Can you imagine the impact the church could have?!
still in the thinking & praying phase….but it’s starting to get me excited. It may never happen. I admit that I’m a bit of a dreamer. 😉